A little shy of 5 months ago, I was throwing on my apron on Friday and Saturday nights, and serving the sometimes not always so friendly patrons of Newtown PA, burgers and fries. I did this for about six years, like clockwork. I didn’t know what it was like to not hustle hard during the week as a full-time student, and hustle even harder on the weekends trying to keep my savings account from dwindling.
Now today, those 5 months later… where am I you ask? Today, as a new college graduate I am living in New York City working at the corporate office of French Connection. These five months alone have been fast, crazy, and to be honest, all consuming. If I was writing this just for me I would get into the deep stuff; like the million moments that I thought I made a mistake and maybe rushed into this too quick, or even the overwhelming anxiety that made me feel lost and afraid- one too many times. You don’t see those parts on social media, do you?
While those things are okay to talk about, I want to take this somewhere else. More so for someone else going through something similar, or for future me, wondering where the hell my head was at on October 14th 2018 at 23 years old.
I always knew that at some point in my life I would end up living in New York City. I wasn’t sure exactly would what bring me here, but I knew that someway somehow, I would be a “New Yorker”. Blame it on the Sex and The City marathons, or the RHONY binges, but I romanticized the city of New York in a way that’s hard to explain.
I think we all can agree that New York (everywhere except for Times Square, of course..) is magical, special, and unlike anywhere else in the world. It has an attraction that brings people in from all over the globe. Over the last few months, I have discovered the nooks and crannies of New York that make it so wonderful and enticing, with my own eyes.
However, in the beginning I also found that sometimes it isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be, and that’s fine too. You’re allowed, and in fact it’s perfectly okay to be disappointed in what you thought was going to be some perfect nirvana. It doesn’t mean you have failed yourself or those around you, it just means you’re doing what you’re supposed to be doing and figuring out this whole life thing, one day at a time.
While working on simply “figuring it out” I have done a lot of talking to others around me about their experiences. I have been taking any advice I can get, just for some peace of mind that, that I am on the right path. I have learned quite a few things that have stuck with me…
Lesson #1: Do not listen to the good opinion and judgment of others, especially if they don’t know what is good for you the way YOU know what is good for you.
Lesson #2: You are not a failure because you took a risk and it didn’t work out. Failing would have not been taking that risk to begin with.
Lesson #3: We do not have to follow the life trajectory that has been mapped out for us by our peers. We can do whatever brings us the most happiness.
Lesson #4, and my personal favorite: You must honor your feelings, always.
I have often sat back and asked myself how I got here- and how it’s possible for these huge turning points in our lives that our parents tell us about when we were little, to get here so quickly, and suddenly you’re just living them out. I know they say time flies- but wow, time really does fly.
A man by the name of John Lennon once said:
“There’s no where you can be, that isn’t where you’re meant to be”.
I have always been a firm believer in the “whatever is meant to be will be” and the “everything happens for a reason” mentality. Where we are right now, is where we are meant to be at this given time in our lives. Questioning the path that took you there, or thinking too far ahead to the future is only going to ruin the NOW. As much as I hate to admit it, when I first got to New York, all I could think about was when I was going to get out. I was ruining what was my now, instead of doing things to change my mentality and “live my best life”.
I remember when I was in high school I was always the planner in my group of friends. I would organize get togethers, concerts, birthdays, you name it. I would constantly be butt hurt when someone would cancel, or the plans wouldn’t go exactly how I had set them. I just couldn’t understand why it couldn’t simply work out- the way I intended it to. After one of these instances, I recall someone telling me “you plan, God laughs”. Have you heard a truer statement? I mean, how many times in our lives have we planned, and planned, and planned, for our plans to fall through in the matter of an instant.
Just a few months ago, while struggling with my own happiness, I remember having a conversation with someone and telling them- “I don’t even feel that I have grown. I feel like I have taken 10 steps back while living here. I don’t feel any stronger of a person”. Although that was a short time ago, I completely disagree with that statement now, and that feels SO good to say. If you are at all interested in stepping out of your comfort zone, I promise you- New York is the place for that. I have been lucky enough to have traveled all throughout Europe in places that were once completely foreign to me, but I can honestly say, New York is a different animal. It FORCES you to grow.
I am in a place now after countless ugly crying sessions with my mom, and countless heart to hearts with those around me, that I am in fact on the right path. I am on MY path. I have found that spark within me again that has allowed me to enjoy those simple pleasures and realize that you truly cannot take this life or your precious time on this earth for granted. One day I am going to look back and be so mad at myself for the days and time I spent being anxious, sad, or worry some about those things out of my control. I have learned that success comes out of moments of crisis. I have learned that those dark times are just “an episode in an episodic life”.
So, there you have it. That is where I have been the last few months, figuring it out. Now, I plan on making my time in New York the absolute greatest it can be. The memories I have made already have brought me so much happiness, and I plan letting that continue *drops the mic*
Soap & Glory is a company SO near and dear to my heart. While abroad in London, literally every single single store I went into had the most beautiful display of their INCREDIBLE products. How I didn’t have an extra suitcase coming home of just Soap & Glory products is beyond me! Although a U.K. company, you can find their brand almost anywhere nowadays in the U.S., including Target and Walgreens, I MEAN WOW.
I was so beyond excited to receive the most precious box from S&G, with so many amazing goodies inside! Lets take a look at what was in the box, shall we?
Apologies for my absence last Tuesday, so much has been going on! Updates to come soon, I promise! See you next week!
This post is going to be a special one, and I can’t wait to finally talk about something so amazing that has been going on in my life.
It’s not often that you are confident on your career path as a mere elementary schooler, while spending your days learning basic multiplication and addition. However, ten-year-old me was an ambitious one, sketching designs, writing elaborate stories, and telling anyone and everyone around her that she was going to work in fashion one day.
I am grateful to that fearless young girl for leading to me to my present career path, now at 22 years old.
Just like many soon to be college graduates, I realized rather quickly that graduation was creeping up on me (May 9th to be specific) and figuring out what my future was going to hold was probably something I should think about (just little things, ha)
For as long as I can remember, I knew that I would one day call New York my home. I would have a closet (ok maybe a storage unit at this point) that would impress even Carrie Bradshaw, a shoe collection that would call for some much needed therapy sessions, and I would make all of this a reality if it was the last thing I did! So, what do you know- its all happening.
When I say this all happened on a whim, I am not exaggerating. Within a short three week time span I went from no post graduation plans, to three back to back interviews in New York, to a job offer, to a start date, to a new apartment, and that is just the beginning. How I have not completely lost it yet, is truly beyond me. Ok- maybe I have… just a little.
My new job is for a company that is near and dear to my heart, French Connection. While studying abroad I interned for French Connection’s sister company called Great Plains U.K. To say I am reminiscent would be a bit of an understatement! I am going to be working in wholesale with various department store accounts! I swear just in that single day, so many of my dreams came true, and I am still not over it.
So, your girl is moving to New York, which I have said aloud so many times now and each time it doesn’t feel real. I will be moving to Long Island City to be specific, in the most beautiful apartment! Naturally, one of the only things on my mind is getting to the decoration phase of the moving. I cannot wait to play and make it a cozy little home. Did I mention my BFF Amanda is my new roommate? Still not over it. Amanda- if you are reading this.. I LOVE YOU.
So many decor/inspo posts to come and I AM SO EXCITED I CANNOT EVEN CONTAIN MYSELF.
Cannot wait to take some amazing pictures in the city and share my journey all on the blog along the way. Thank you so much for reading:) xx
Welcome back to this weeks post! I hope everyone had a great Easter weekend along with a joyous Passover! This week is another crazy one, heading back to New York tomorrow for a little something special. Still weary of sharing because I don’t want to jinx it, but soon enough, hopefully!
I’m thinking of doing some blog posts talking about positivity and manifestation, would anyone be interested in something like that? I find that positivity/optimism is a topic I have most definitely battled with, but have worked through quite a bit. Sometime’s when life gets a little hectic we tend to become overcome with anxiety and emotion, thinking these problems are bigger than us. However- they aren’t, and it that has been such a rewarding realization. Anyway, let me know if you would be interested:)
Today- we are going back to basics.
When I say I wear gym clothes to school everyday, I am REALLY not exaggerating. Anyone else? However, those random days where I decide to throw on something other than Lululemon’s, I still require comfort. One of my favorite items I have ever invested in from Urban Outfitters, are these black velvet overalls. They. Are. Everything. Whether I throw on a T-shirt, mesh long sleeve, chunky sweater, the options are endless when it comes to styling them!
Thought I would show a quick outfit of the day that is effortless, simple, yet still put together. Hope you enjoy!
What are your absolute go to’s when it comes to looking put together, with little effort? Would love to hear about your favorite outfits!
Thanks for reading peeps. Can’t wait for some fun posts coming up!